The Ultimate Guide to have The Courage to Change

Photo by Nicolas J Leclercq on Unsplash

This article began almost a year ago. I usually end my writing in a day or a week, but not this one. I sensed that it could be a long journey of a new perspective.

I spent 2016-2018 in Phuket, one of the most popular, beautiful islands in Thailand. Life was chilled and relaxed, with me doing a few gigs at a time, including teaching yoga. It was Zen. 

I spent a lot of time thinking. To me, life was simple. I was in a pleasant environment, had some great people in my circle, there was tons of healthy food, less stress, and I laughed a lot more. I didn’t watch much television. 

My daily routine started with me getting up early between 4 am – 5 am. I would work on my clients’ digital system, workout and so some meditating, and get a cup of coffee while curling up with a good book. I may have worked some more during the afternoon and end the day by the beach. I was living a quality life. 

But one day the thought hit me: “What is next? I’m not even close to 50.”

A ship is safe in harbor, but that is not what ships are for.

John A. Shedd

I accepted two business opportunities which did not end well. I lost money but learned two big lessons. First, trust your gut, and second, listen to your gut. If it did not smell right from the beginning, don’t try to be an optimist. Rather, be smart.  

We often hear that the world needs more kindness. But we often tend to forget that kindness is not only reserved for others. We need to reserve some kindness for ourselves. This means we need to practice self-love in order to love others. Self-love and being selfish are two separate things. Google their meanings if you don’t believe me.

I moved back to Bangkok in January 2019. Because my work involves a lot of traveling, it means I am out of town a lot which is fun. Business, this past year, has gradually increased.  

Although most people know me as a yoga teacher and wellness consultant, what pays the build is my marketing and managing work. This involves entire digital marketing systems. I have had a measure of success from this work which started out as a hobby ten years ago. 

But…

Have you heard about burnout? It is real. My brain did not stop working. Whereas sleeping had never previously been an issue, I would do anything to get my brain just to shut down. I was taking sleeping pills, Serotonin supplements, and listening to Delta wave music, amongst others. Physical exercise and meditation were no longer priorities. 

Sometime mid-year saw me lost. I was not sure whether I should focus on my digital work or my wellness career. I had fun doing both. For me, digital marketing is like trying to win The Contra. After a 1,000 times game over, I won forever.

My career in the wellness industry started with me wanting to learn how to apply certain principles for myself. However, I got a chance to help develop and support other people. This made me happy and I saw it as an honor.

However, I realized I needed to narrow my focus. I could not do everything. So, I asked myself a simple question: “Do I like myself in the state I am right now?” The answer was NO.

I started a mental brainstorm with myself:

What is my goal?

How much change needs to happen?

How do I get there?

Is it meaningful to me?

What step can I take today?

I reached out to different mentors. I have many of them, all with a higher perspective, greater vision, and a growth mindset. They have all been ‘there’. Most are now corporate coaches albeit in a variety of different fields. I thus received a ton of positive guidance and advice, and even the ‘how to’s” and appropriate tools.

The first thing I did was to change and reorganize my working habits. After puzzling things through, I found a few assistants, managed to have more time to exercise and read, and to prepare my wellness coaching program for 2020.

You can choose to accept your circumstances, become a victim, and complain about ‘why me’. OR you can choose to fight for the life you want to live. Some people tend to give up because it takes them out of their comfort zone.

If your life, right now, is cluttered like mine was, I want you to take a deep breath and imagine it as a timeline, with you looking back through each period of your life. Like a movie, there are gaps and transition processes.

Change happens all the time, although we may not realize it. Making small adjustments could have a major impact on your life. These changes take you to a different level, with you learning more about yourself each time.

The positives bring you joy, while the negatives allow you to grow. No situation is right or wrong. What is important is how you interpret each event.

If you are in charge of your life, you are stable during stormy times with your roots dug deep. You may still feel the force of the wind blowing, or get wet from the rain, but neither can kill you. Change makes you stronger when choosing the life you desire.

You could get lost when your work and life are in a state of unbalance or when faced with a challenging situation. Awareness is key when faced with these situations. By knowing where you are in the present moment.

If faced with undesired circumstances, answer these questions:

Where do I want to be in the next five or ten years?

If I continue doing what I am doing today, will I get there?

What am I grateful day?

What are my values?

Find the good things in the situation and have the courage to change and take action.

“Change can be scary, but you know what’s scarier? Allowing fear to stop you from growing, evolving, and progressing.”

Mandy Hale

Finally, if you enjoy reading this or found this article valuable, feel free to share it, and click subscribe for upcoming journeys.

Connect with me on Facebook & Instagram

Enjoy Living & Be Happy
Jess Soraya


2 Comments Add yours

  1. Tim Robins says:

    A thought provoking article, perfect reading for the New Year. Thanks Jess

    Like

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s